We don’t lose ourselves in the Other.
We find out who we are.
Aubrey Aust is a speaker, writer, and facilitator trained in psychology and philosophy. Her work examines how relationships shape identity, drawing from psychoanalysis, attachment theory, and embodied approaches to healing.
She holds an M.A. in Relational Psychology and Philosophy from NYU, a B.A. in Political Theory from Pomona College, and hosts the podcast Hint of Trauma.
Our relationships don't just reflect who we are — they produce us. The longing, the fear, the desire, the shame, the tenderness are the deepest structures of ordinary life.
Drawing from psychoanalysis, attachment theory, somatic psychology, and philosophy, Aubrey studies how identity is formed and transformed through relational experience, including the spaces that conventional frameworks tend to overlook.
The Work
The Podcast
Conversations on the psychological forces that shape intimacy, desire, and human connection with self and other.
Hint of Trauma
Salons + Workshops
Intimate environments for collective reflection on the emotional and relational dynamics that structure our lives.
Live Gatherings
Individuals and Couples1:1 Work
Depth-oriented sessions for those ready to understand their relational patterns, desires, and themselves at a deeper level.
"What does our experience of one another reveal about the human psyche?"
Office Hours
Questions you can't ask anywhere else. Read and submit here.