We all have a story about who we are. Here’s what it takes to rewrite it.

We celebrate independence, praise detachment as emotional maturity, and raise an eyebrow at anyone whose love feels a little too consuming, too dependent, too much. Somewhere along the way, dependence became a dirty word. So how do we say “I need you, but I need me too?”

We rarely talk about this kind of slow self-abandonment. The ways we ghost not only others but also the part of ourselves that once trusted community as a source of care. So why do we disappear, and how can we begin to come back?

The myth of finding your people suggests that belonging is passive— something that happens when the right conditions align. Yet both psychology and lived experience tell us otherwise: belonging isn't found, it's built.

The paradox of wanting love but fearing it is one of the most human experiences we can have. It’s not irrational. It’s protective.

Authentic networking isn’t about collecting business cards or perfecting your pitch. It’s about cultivating mutual trust, emotional resonance, and psychological safety. In other words, it’s about building real relationships, even at work.

You know the feeling: someone gets too close, and suddenly, you’re pulling back. Maybe you change the subject. Maybe you make a joke (whoops, guilty). Maybe you disappear altogether. We call it putting up walls, but it’s really a form of protection. And like most protective strategies, it started somewhere meaningful.

I’m finding an interesting thread between psychologists and philosophers studying states of freedom: physically, mentally, and spiritually. All point back to one pivotal point in life.

Childhood.

Vulnerability is one of the most paradoxical experiences we face as humans: it is the thing we most crave, and yet, the thing we most fear. So how do we… I don’t know… get over ourselves?

What do we call the “tiny” traumas – the ones that build up over time? The kind that unfolds over the years, shaping the very foundation of how we see ourselves and the world? Often stemming from relationships or systemic oppression, this is the territory of complex trauma.

Our bodies hold our stories. They also have the potential to release them. Learn how somatics enter the realm of psychology and the latest principles in mind-body integration.

Relationships are essential for meaning, belonging, and growth. But, despite having opportunities for connection more readily available than ever before, studies report lower satisfaction and depth in relationships. What drives us to connect in the first place? And what are we truly seeking?

What do dreams actually reveal about our desires and needs? Explore how dreaming helps us imagine new possibilities and find meaning in our lives.

Why I stopped doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

Maybe. Unless you are searching for happiness, in which case, probably not.

Needs are hard to define but essential for true fulfillment. Here are some need buckets for your needing pleasure.