A depth-oriented approach to intimacy, desire, and relational life.
For individuals and couples who want to stop feeling stuck, misunderstood,
or disconnected, and build relationships that feel honest, safe, and alive.
Is This Work For You?
This work is for you if:
You keep having the same conflicts or hitting the same walls in your relationships, no matter who you're with
You're navigating ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, or kink dynamics and need support understanding power, desire, and communication in these contexts
You feel disconnected from your partner(s) and don't know how to bridge the gap
You're questioning what you want in relationships, but feel shame or confusion around your desires
You've tried conventional relationship advice, but it doesn't fit your relationship structure or values
You want to understand your patterns at a deeper level—not just get surface-level techniques or quick fixes
You're ready to stop protecting yourself in ways that keep you from the intimacy you want
What Is Relational & Self-Inquiry Work?
Relational & Self-Inquiry Work is a depth-oriented coaching process that draws from relational psychology, psychoanalysis, nervous-system awareness, and philosophy. Together, we explore how your body, mind, and relational history shape the way you communicate, connect, want, and protect. Whether individually or as a couple, this work helps you understand yourself and your patterns at their deepest level to build understanding that feels honest, attuned, and resilient. All orientations and relationship structures welcome.
My Approach
Most of my work happens inside a 10-session, 4-month container, which gives us the continuity and spaciousness to explore your patterns, clarify your desires, and build a more grounded, intentional way of relating. Many clients choose to continue after this initial arc; I also offer a limited number of single sessions for focused guidance.
My training includes an MA in Relational Psychology and Philosophy at NYU, a Practitioner certification through the Co-Active Training Institute, and work with the Gottman Institute. I work with people across the full spectrum of relationship structures and orientations—monogamous, polyamorous, ENM, and kink-aware. In our work, we slow down enough to notice what your patterns are attempting to secure, what your nervous system anticipates, and what your deeper self is asking for.
Testimonials
“Aubrey is a gift. This is the work for those who want to understand themselves and those they love more truthfully. It’s rare, and it’s profound.”
— E.C and R.L“You can feel how much heart and soul she puts into this work. Aubrey showed me new ways of seeing and being seen.”
— D.W“I came into this blocked. Working with Aubrey changed what I thought was possible in my relationships.”
— C.H.I am seeking…
Individual Support
A 10-session, 4-month container for those wanting to understand their wants, strengthen their relational capacity, and build a more honest, grounded relationship with themselves and others.
Investment: $575/month for 4 months or $2,300 paid in full.
Couples’ Support (2+ people)
A structured 10-session, 4-month process for partners ready to deepen communication, navigate conflict with more clarity, and reconnect to desire, safety, and shared meaning.
Investment: $875/month for 4 months or $3,500 paid in full.
Single Session
A 60-minute session for focused guidance, a relational question, or support with a specific situation. Ideal for those seeking clarity or a place to begin before entering longer-term work.
Investment: $225 per session.
FAQ
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Both. I work with individuals who want to deepen their understanding of their relational patterns, desires, and themselves, and with couples seeking to navigate intimacy, communication, and emotional safety. The work often overlaps; learning how to be with oneself is inseparable from learning how to be with another.
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Yes. I work with individuals and couples across all relationship configurations—including ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, and kink/BDSM dynamics. Whether you're navigating jealousy in ENM, power exchange in a D/s dynamic, or simply building intimacy outside conventional models, this work meets you where you are. My approach is non-prescriptive and rooted in understanding your specific relational context, nervous system, and desires.
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I work with clients on a weekly or biweekly basis, depending on their needs and pacing. Because relational and self-inquiry work requires continuity and safety, I ask for an initial commitment of ten sessions over four months. This structure gives us the time necessary to build relational capacity and integrate new ways of engaging with yourself and others.
I offer a limited number of single sessions. If you need immediate short-term support or need some help in finding a starting spot for a larger issue, please feel free to reach out. -
Sessions are 60 minutes. This gives us enough room to explore what’s happening in the moment, trace the deeper relational or nervous-system patterns underneath, and integrate what you’re learning without feeling rushed. All sessions take place virtually unless otherwise noted.
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No. While the work is deeply psychological and introspective, it is not psychotherapy or mental health treatment. These sessions are designed to cultivate self-understanding, relational awareness, and emotional literacy in ways that are complementary to, yet distinct from, traditional therapeutic frameworks. If you are experiencing acute distress, I can share referrals to licensed professionals.
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That’s perfectly fine. Many people begin individually. Often, the insights you develop in your own work naturally shift the dynamics within your relationships.
Ready to Begin?
If you're tired of repeating the same patterns and ready to understand yourself and your relationships at a deeper level, let's talk.